It seems to me that the FinDom community is overrun with women trying to make a quick buck by being "sexier than" well let me say this... I am not overly sexy. I have pudge and a double chin, but I am real and I know that when I find the right boy, now of that will matter. It's all about connection. FinDom is a relationship just like anything else, it takes work and commitment, not just good looks and a superior attitude.